Hallo nyumbas planet fem -feminine.I got a question and I would really appreciate your opinions.

This happened about a week ago when my cousin took me to her friends house for a girls get together celebrating the friends engagement.
The Maiden said that her and her mate had decided to wait until after the marriage for the mattress mambo.
Everyone hugged her and congratulated her saying that was the right way to go.
Yours trully here did not say a thing.

The women asked why I was quiet.Told them cause I did not wonna lie so my best option was to stay numb.
Lets here it ,they demanded.

I told them Im all for waiting until after the marriage.But,I was also for starting with HIV,Hep C and all other STDs test waaaay before the wedding.And if the tests came back neg,then the next level.Which is?they asked.

When we go shopping,we try everything out before paying the cashier so we know if it will fit and also know how it will make us feel.

So how can you commit the rest of your life to anyone before knowing if you are compatible when it comes to your emotional and physical needs?Wouldnt you wonna know if he will satisfy you in every way that counts?Just because he looks hot does not mean he has the goods and more importantly,he knows how to work the goods.

Who are we kidding.The rest of your life could be a long long time coming.Would you wonna be stuck with somme fella you would rather not be stuck with?
I know its religion waiting untill after marriage.I am a Christian and I believe God wants me to be happy.Right? Right they said.Then I believe God would not mind me checking the goods before I say I do.

What exactly are you saying,woman?,asked the maidens mother not in a nice way.You asked.I did not answer.You insisted that I answer.I told you my opinion.And thats the way I see it.

Kirindi!!They ask.You give your opinion they chew you.I do not get it.

So ladies,Let me hear your opinions.

Guys welcome too.

Nyina Wa Bhakita,

I will speak on my own behalf.I would never buy a car without a good and thorough test drive. All aspects of her would be thoroughly tested, sexual, emotional,physical, mental-i mean everything.And mark you, i have to do it ten times over just in case the first one was a big fluke.

Suppose you took her in and later found out she was a hermaphrodite or had certain defects. All the apparatus must be in excellent working conditions. How else do you test the functionality or otherwise of the equipments.What recourse would you have? Even if she was a virgin, believe me i would have to do a "certification test", "performance test", "sanity test" and "other quality control tests".

Religion or not, i would not be caught dead in such blind and suicidal adventures.

Wa B,

This is very interesting and tricky, sisemi kitu

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Originally posted by Nyina Wa Bakhita:
The Maiden said that her and her mate had decided to wait until after the marriage for the mattress mambo.
Everyone hugged her and congratulated her saying that was the right way to go.
Yours trully here did not say a thing.

Why was she even going public with this?? Had anyone asked her?? i thought that was between her and her boo. Anyway i wish her all the luck she can get, were were there tooo......we promised never never never...i wonder how many of us lived to see the day.

Now wa B,i want to look at it from 2 different views:
i)to wait untill you get the Driving license.
Here if both have not then i guess they will teach each other,its a learning process whether you have done it or not.Secondly you can only call one person short if there is another tall one,for comparison.Kwa hivyo kama hawajaonja,whatever you get is what will be acceptable.The only danger is if one persoins onjas one day and gets sooo much pleasure.
ii)If you test drive
The question is,at what stage do you decide to test the waters?most probably when you are head over heels.So kama umeshapenda,do you retract coz of the performance?can you teach him/her to please you?
In CONCLUSION Since its all in the mind,can this be reason enough to call it quits if the other qualities are good or vice versa?
The million dollar question to all of you:when the children fika that age,what is the advice you will give?chill ama onja?

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Originally posted by Mbugua wa Wambui:
In CONCLUSION Since its all in the mind,can this be reason enough to call it quits if the other qualities are good or vice versa?

Mbugua, Would you call it quits on this basis, or you would stay. Boils down to you as a person.

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The million dollar question to all of you:when the children fika that age,what is the advice you will give?chill ama onja?

Of course we all wish our children "watachill" but with the kind of exposure nowadays, its good to give them first hand info so that the can make informed decisions.

Again, we have narrowed the issue to Kasarani. I will come back with my views later

Wa B.....I keep saying life is not a reaharsal...I have heard horror stories and am not willing to experiment my life....I have to be sure of what am geting myself into....test drive is a must.

Unfortunately, some test-driving begins before kids ahve attained the legal driving age, and it goes on for eternity.

well, a test drive is a must,then for kids nowadays u got talk with them openly and make them aware of the realities in life about the whole issue and with good guidance i believe they'll make informed decisions

Thank you all for sharing your wisdom.I will send the Maiden this subject so she can read.
Remember what Gikuyu said.Ati Mugi ni muutare.

Paka Mwitu...You and me both.Im all for checking the appararus beforehand.

Wakabutha...I realised the only thing we have in common na hawa watu wa Karimbian ni skin colour Period.It was the lady friends who asked her Kama huyo Jamaa ni Kiboko kwa mattress mambo.I was shocked and at the same time impressed.After a certain age,mothers and daughters talk about everything.And I mean everything.I like that.

Mbugua Wa Wambui...To wait or not to wait thats the question.Kama wao wawili ni njuka, then by all means wait.Lakini kama both wameventure,I think it would be smart to go for a test drive.
When my daughters get to that age,I will talk to them just like Wakanyugi says so they can make informed decisions.

Wakanyugi...I concur.

Sajini...I would encourage my kids to test drive only after the lucky fella proposes and of course after the Stds tests results.

Hedimeni....You are right.Good Guidance is the key.

And Mbugua,if one tests the waters and it has salt,the next step is not to retract but to talk about it with the mate and come up with a solution.

Thank you all for your thoughts.

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Originally posted by sheeba:
Wa B,

This is very interesting and tricky, sisemi kitu

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Originally posted by hedimeni mutua(mukaburo):
well, a test drive is a must,then for kids nowadays u got talk with them openly and make them aware of the realities in life about the whole issue and with good guidance i believe they'll make informed decisions

Sorry folks,
There is no test driving here. We are simply using a politically correct euphemism for a licence to sexual permissiveness. And this becomes and end in itself, with no intention of marriage at all. So folks, let us be honest with ourselves. There is no test driving, if you want to experience the joys of sex, say it openly, and don't try to fool us with the test-driving lie. Apprentices in these tests never get licences.

Porn stars may be good bets in this departments, but I wonder how many of you would be willing to walk down the alter with them on that account.

Andu a Nyumba this is a very tricky area but personally i would only wait until after the wedding only if someone else has not been there. Then its really worth the wait. but if someone else has had a taste of the goods then it beats all logic to say ati wait until marriage, but again thats me, a humble village boy from Nyeri!!!!