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If its all about performance,then why dont you try to work it out with her and see how you can spice it up.You dont solve a problem by running away from it!!!Lol

Jeni, the problem is if a man tried telling his wife eti her perfomance is wanting.....glasses will be broken. so many questions will arise(just like it would happen if a wife told the hubby that his perfomance is below average.)the first thing will be suspicion.questions will be asked on how the other partner came to know about the benchmark.

I think the problem of bedroom matters occur laregly because the man just 'goes there as if he's talking to someone who's just about to borrow him some money- no concentration at all) and so he wont notice the nose dive in perfomance graph. the woman will start sleeping in an old T-shirts and an old stocking kwa kichwa - a sight the hubby dreads to see and as result will opt to go home when he's dead drunk to notice any stockings on some woman's head!(according to Pastor JJ).......but if the man notices that the wife is wearing stokings and old T-shirts to bed,why not buy her some lingerie( ama wananunuliwa na hawavai?)

The problem is not in the bedroom,its with us.coz many always think its your right to make love with your spouse without considering his,her situation .Guys we are in new era where by you have to beg no matter what!And always explain further.

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Guys we are in new era where by you have to beg no matter what!

Ndianyama, this is what breaks marriages(so i hear). imagine a wife,or worse still a hubby, BEGGING for her/his rights while there is a moron out there who is so eager to render the services with the slightest hint of a request!

Word of Advice: never let your wife beg you for her rights!!! that will be the end of you brother!

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......but if the man notices that the wife is wearing stokings and old T-shirts to bed,why not buy her some lingerie( ama wananunuliwa na hawavai?)
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Thats a nice one Nimatwire, n you should never ever dare beg for "cargo" n to spice things up zinatakiwa unaanza morning yani ile tunaita {kamorni}then aftey{kaaftey} inagagukihinga wira.

sisemi kitu

Sheeba. sema kitu.

Andu maikarania matikomaga na nguo, kai muri aku inyui??

wakabutha
ma ma ma ma ngúroka kúhikania

hehehehe.....ni ndirona guku kwi na maundu very interesting.....
Wa Kihia; bedroom matters are damn sentive I second you on that. However; I dont think the problem would be telling your patner about how to spice things up that brings the commotion....its how we say it. If a patner says as if the are accusatory then definately the other party goes on defensive mode. I believe that as patners; you should work as a team and if am not comfortable with something then I should be in a postion to tell my patner...and visa vi. Lets face it....after some time if there's no added spice in a couples sex its bound to be monotonous hence patners start cheating on each other. The "fear" of "what will my panter think" ...and "fear to try out and discover new things" its what brings out all these bedroom issues.

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Originally posted by Wakabutha:
Andu maikarania matikomaga na nguo, kai muri aku inyui??

Wakabutha,
tamere mundu akomaga na unibomu (uniform) ya Mwathani!

This is just crazy

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Andu maikarania matikomaga na nguo, kai muri aku inyui??

kihia nindagutuma kiama njetherwo muka na ihenya

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Originally posted by sajini:
This is just crazy

Sajini,
What's crazy?

Ngunjiri,
hau nima!Uniform ya mwathani niyo njega handu ha mundu gutindaga agiteta ni gistocking na gitishati gitaruku!Lol

Wa kihia na wangu wa makeri,
Murenda mutumia thamburi gani.I will be there to help.Kana wa kihia winake stedby tondu wauga ukuroka kuhikania?Lol

Nyumba,
Mutigisuggest uria muthuri/mutumia akiagiriirwo ni gwika nigetha ona mundu waku njuiri ikambarara!!!!

ha ha! tiga guthekia Jane.
I think the common denominator in everything husband and wife should have is: communication. Let all the communication channels be open. Let each one of you be able to express his/her thoughts, aspirations, concerns without feeling inhibited or fear of reprimand from the partner. Unfortunately, if these channels are blocked, dooms sets in and extends to stockings in the head, old t-shirts, socks, track-suits... in the bedroom.