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Originally posted by Wakanyugî:


Nway Ladies...what is is that u do to your man to make him feel "SPECIAL".....married ladies go first.

Wakanyus,LOOOOOOOOL. .It looks like there aren't many of us here. .Please don't get me wrong.I love my husband.But I guess I could say I love myself more.Heck who are we kidding.I do what makes me happy.I still go out on dates with him.You know,movies,star-gazing,walks,church,no where long drives.Just site seeing.You know,the same things we did when we dated.I loved dancing back then.I still love to dance and he has no choice but to take me dancing.The thing is,he loves it.

When I'm happy,he is happy.That's All Folks.

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However how many of us women make that extra extra effort to please ur man and make him fel the need to reciprocate?"

this treatment thing, i know for sure i give as good as i get, now that might sound selfish but truth be told, its hard to be nice to someone who is not half as nice to you! kweri/rongo?
i agree with Nyina wa B, i have to be happy first then i can make him happy as well.

Wakariuki its true. But on the other hand you get back what you give, sometimes this mundu is not able to give good treatment since he does not receive the same from you.. Its a 02 way thing.. Its like an echo..you hear back exactly what you say...

He is good to you, you are good to him..
You are good to him and he is good to him..automatic

i hear you Ruki, but women are way too good, otherwise how do you explain those cases where women hang in there in bad marriages for a long time? they are naturally good and they forgive and forgive and forgive!! even when their men are not half as good! so again its not quite two way... women go out of their way alot (some men do too but very small percentage compared to women.)

So true.A friend fwded this to me.I want to share with you ladies.

WORDS WRITTEN BY AN OBSERVANT WOMAN.

Good men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets,
in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see because we don't know
what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich
enough to turn our heads.

He might not wear a suit or push a BMW. He might not have a
"body like Vin Diesel with a Brad Pitt face". But, as you mature, you realize
it's better to find someone who's got your back than someone who turns your
head.
A good man doesn't agree whole heartedly with everything you
say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He
doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada yada he is (he wont
have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and you may clash,
but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times
to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He
is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful,
strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel
that you don't live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare,
"Aha! I knew you were a dog!!"

A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't
judge him by TV standards (...Bold and the Beautiful...). No one lives
that fairy tale for real. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into
the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.
Men, we salute
you, and thank you for who you are and all you've done.

Martina McBride---This One's For The Girls
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6MJwdY6Y0Hw&feature=related