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| "Children.The Greatest Love of all." Silver Member  |
Hallo Ladies,its about time we anziaad a girl talk thingii.  I guess its true what they say.When you go to Rome,do as Romans do.  Hawa watu wahapa ask one too many questions.Im gonna ask you one question most people are always asking me and my King. How did you two meet?So Ladies,how did you meet your soulmate? Everytime I tell them how and where,they always go,HUH? I tell them,oh let me see.I met him in a magazine.What?They say.I continue, oh wait a minute.I think I met him in an envelope.You gotta be kidding me some say.Oh no.I think I got it now.I met him at the airport.And they just look at me like,What the world? The thing is,I found him in a pen-pal section.I sent him mail and two weeks later I received his.We talked via post office at least twice a week.He told me American stories and I told him Kikuyu stories.Well,the only stories I knew then.I was born and grew up in the village.I carried my book everywhere.When I went grazing with my grandpa,I told him about it.We communicated for many years till we both finished high school and college. When he finished college,he got a job.I kept telling him of stories.When we were at the factory waiting for the coffee to be weighed,he was all I thought about when the village boys messed with the village girls.It was like I did not belong.He always asked me about them boys.I told him they were sought of afraid of me.Why he asked.I told him the truth.Cause I shinjaad kukus na mbuzi with grandpa.I also told him I was the one who castrated the dogs .I think that scared him too.Hey,whats a village girl to do?I did not have brothers. To cut a long story short,he decided to come visit.In the village.In my letters,I had left out the pit latrines. .Oh that was tough,for him anyway.He was sooooo afraid of the dark.But he said it was romantic.One day,my mama organized a ndiia for him.I shinjaad the goat.He threw up.When the meat was done,everybody started eating.I gave him some of my favs.Ndundiro and gakuo kaingi. When he took a bite of the gakuokaingi,he said,this tastes like s h i t but it tastes good.What is this?My mama,she was not so nice.She smiled and said,nduhititie muno.Before we washed it,it was full of you know.He could not believe it.He got mad with me .Well,he forgave me and the rest is history.How did you meet your mate? Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservations. -My Childrens Mama. | ||
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Wow!!! just like a fairy tale WEGA UMAGA NA MICII | |||
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Wa b, What a nice way to meet your spouse.Your husband must have such determination!Even after giving him ndundiro hahaha Lazima anakupenda sana I will share my story soon.Its a long one though  | |||
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| "Nyina wa Hazel" Gold Member  |
Ma bad..dont have a story to tell. | |||
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Wakanyugi every girl has a story to tell... mine is also coming soon!! watch that space. "It is better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" | |||
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Wacha zako Wakanyugi.At least you must have something  | |||
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Wakanyugi is not alone, i also don't have a story... its true! | |||
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aai! Kaliz, sema ukweri mtupu! nyinyi na Wakanyusi mnaleta maongo hata ile ya village tutasikia tu "It is better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" | |||
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| "Children.The Greatest Love of all." Silver Member |
***Sheeba,wee all have stories we can tell Better than the fairy tales.You know,with no fairly godmothers,no magic,and yes,in laws from hell untill we learn how to get along.Girl,truth is stranger than fiction.We come out of the hardships we go thru with no fairies to help.I like that. ***Jane,it may have sounded like a nice way cause I left out the ugly details.It was hard.Rough and tough.Heck we went thru major breakups especially after I met ati Athoni akwa.Nii nderire my King ati not even God can order me to stay na hiyo familia yake.He tried using my spirituality on me but I told him that God will never put a gun to your head to force you into something you dont want.And if God had opted to force me to stay,I would have picked the alternative. It was a rough road.I guess cause we sought of took the road less travelled.I understood then why it was less travelled ***Wakanyugi,Yeah!Right!Niukwenda njurie Wa Kihia? ***Wa Kariuki,tera Wakanyugi nitumuii. ***Kaliz,A---Hah. LOL We all have stories.If I took out my journal, My favourite chapters-when I was pregnant. This message has been edited. Last edited by: Nyina Wa Bakhita, Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservations. -My Childrens Mama. | |||
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| "Jeneti Ndari" Silver Member |
Topic njega .I met my 'soul mate' at a pre-wedding party and at first I thought he was mad because he was quarreling with everybody there. And in the many gatherings we met in after that, he was always quarelling with someone (siasa, pombe na wanawake )He is from Gatundu and I'm from Kiambaa and he's two years older than me. Anyway, I didn't notice him for about two years. One day, I needed specific business information and a mutual friend referred me to him. I phoned him and that was that. We had a long conversation and by the end of it, we were laughing like two fools. I love him very much because: a) he listens to what I have to say and values my opinion and he does not try to boss me around. b) he's very proud of who he is and where he comes from c) he is always trying to grow and improve himself as a person and he helps me tremendously in my own pursuits. He is interested in my ideas and hobbies. In the beginning, he tried to control me and that's where the issues began. He had a very huge ego and could not understand why I operate the way I do (yaani, I don't treat him like he's my master). But after five years of battles and quarrels, he just decided to accept me the way I am. Now we are okay. Even though his wicked family hate me (because they think my family is not 'high-class' like them), he has always stuck by my side. We laugh, talk all the time, ask each other for advise and he knows that if he ever has an affair, I will not bother trying to kill him (or her). Niakoha mirigo and I will remain doing my own thing. Single ladies, my best advise to you is this: Live your life and never show a man that he's better than you or that you can't live without him. You have to value yourself and you must be a complete human being before you decide to unite with another. Don't try to trap men by lying to them or by pretending to be what you are not. Just be yourself. If a man lies to you in the beginning, leave. Don't think you can change a man or anyone for that matter, and never try to control his movements or any aspect of his life. And never, ever try to come between him and his family - even if they hate you. And most important, any man who tries to intimidate you is not the man you should be with. ~ Twí Hamwe ~ | |||
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| "Children.The Greatest Love of all." Silver Member |
Maria,when we started communicating via post office,we had no idea that we could end up together.The thing is,we became very good friends.We told each other everything I guess cause,hey ,whats the harm in telling someone you know chances of meeting are very low,your darkest secrets?It was fun.In high school,the headmistress called me to the office once to ask who that was that wrote to me so often.Hehehehehhe.Told her he was my pen pal.She did not believe me. He told me about american girls and I told him about the kikuyu boys.We both laughed about it. He told me about his girlfriend.Well,I had no boyfriend to talk about except this boy in my village who thought he was Gods gift to girls. He asked questions about places I had no clue where they were then ,like Shimoni.I had to ask around .One of my teachers told me it had something to do with slavery.I guess he was trying to go back to his roots. Many many years later he came to visit.When I saw him for the first time,it was no big deal cause I knew him already.It was like I had known him all my life.By this time,there was this guy I was dating but not on a serious note. He did not believe that he was in Africa.He must have expected to end up on a tree house somewhere. .We spent a lot of time together.He came during the coffee season and that was perfect.He came with us to the factory.Sometimes we waited the whole night for the coffee to be weighed.We talked,hugged,and hugged.We became very close.He asked me if I could walk with him to the post office.He had two letters he needed to post.To his girlfriend and his parents.He had gone mad I thought.If it is meant to be,It will be.Nothing can ever come between the two of you.Not parents,Not girlfriends,Not sisters,no one. I remember after he went back to the Us.My family was very discouraging.They said he was far and that he was gonna mess around.I told them I did not care.Cause I knew he was mine.And he will forever be mine.Women can try take him away from me but we had this connecttion that not even the devil himself could break. If the two of you are determined to make it work,it will work Maria.I know it.It is very very difficult though.But with God on your side,it is possible.The two of you have to be on the same level though.What you want and what he wants.His needs and your needs. I wish you two well.Don't ever give up.If it was Gods plan,it will be.If not,He has a better plan for you.This message has been edited. Last edited by: Nyina Wa Bakhita, Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservations. -My Childrens Mama. | |||
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| "Children.The Greatest Love of all." Silver Member |
Wa Mugwanja,good to have you back.It is funny how you spend so many years or months looking for the one and then one day it just hits you like a ton of bricks.DANG! you say.He was right under my nose. .That is soo cool.He is a good man.I will tell you some other time why I Love and actually believe he is the only one,well,besides God and Jesus that walks on water. .About your in-laws,I was once there with mine.Haki huyo mamake I used to wonder what her problem was.First time she saw me,she asked mtoto wake,Africa?Have you gone mad son? One of the many reasons why I love him so,he looked at her and said.No mama.Not mad.Just wise.That was when I knew that yes.He was all mine.For better for worse.That woman hated me.Luckily for me,we lived miles apart.One mothers day though I sent her a happy mothers day card.I thanked her for giving me the most precious gift any woman can give you besides life and a child of her own.Her son.I thanked her for doing a very good job raising him for I told her,she raised a king and thanks to her,he is my king now.That woman got on the next flight out.She called us from the airport.When she saw me,she ran and gave me this big hug.Her son looked at her and said,mom,are you okay?Little did I know but I had at last won her over. All my king said to me was,what have you done to my mother? Don't let them scare you.They too know if he has chosen to be with you,there is nothing they can do about it.And Maidens,listen to what Wa Mugwanja.Dont ever take a man to complete your life or to make you happy.You complete your life,make yourself happy,then move on. Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservations. -My Childrens Mama. | |||
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Waoh I really admire everyone story in this forum.Times have changed and lifestyles too!Women at least can now speak their minds freely without fear of being intimidated! When I went to Egerton Univ as a first year,I met this Kisii guy(he was a student leader)on the first day because he was the one+others doing the orientation.He showed me my room and all other stuff I was supposed to know as a fresher.He followed me everywhere I went and when evening came,He came to my room ati tunyihie hwai and then started telling me how madly in love he was with me I thot this guy was out there to take advantage of freshers because the other students had not reported.I told myself I will play cool and we agreed we will just be friends(Yes just friends) with no strings attached which we did.As time went by,this guy because overly jealous and didn't want me to associate myself with anybody else apart from him  During this time,I was learning him because I told myself If i give in to this guy,I will never get to know him!That helped because with time,I was able to actually see the real him.He was always asking me to go test driving with him which I didn't coz I wanted to know him more.Thank God!!! We ended up splitting because I couldn't stand his possesiveness and jealousy and demands...As time passed by as I started dating this Limuru jamaa who was overly nice.We were friends even before I split up with the Kisii guy and during that time he never even mentioned anything about us starting a relationship or me leaving this other guy for him.When our relationship began,I asked him why he never mentioned it to me before and he said that he didn't want to come between us although he knew deep in him I was meant for him Waoh It worked and we test drove and I became pregnant.Things started getting hard men!!When we were doing our paper work to come to the states,I was vaccinated against various diseases and the Doc told me not to get pregnant till 6 months were over coz if I did my baby will be born with abnormalities!!!Heck!!The nurse didnt do me a PT be4 the vaccines and I was alreday pregnant!! My boyfriend stood by me all the time and although the doctors had told me too abort coz the baby was in danger,my BF stood by me and said NO!!We came to the states when I was 6 months pregant and our a very healthy bouncing son was born here I would re-marry my husband over and over again and I thank God everyday for opening my eyes before the Kisii fellow ruined my life!!! Not that we've not had our ups and down zile za kawaida.They are there and we deal with them accordingly. MY ADVICE TO THOSE NOT MARRIED YET Please do not give in to the guys demands untill you've known him really well.Wengine as soon as you test drive they will run away.Do not stay in arelationship thinking that you will change him for better!!You will never.He will be him and you will be you.None of you two can change the other. | |||
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| "Children.The Greatest Love of all." Silver Member |
***Jane,Im soooo glad you did not end up na huyu Githii.I have a friend here from Kampala.She is married to this Githii guy and girl,thank God you found your King before it was too late.Huyo jamaa ako na very bad temper. WOW!You can marry him over and over again?That one sentence says alot.Way to go. One more thing for the maidens still waiting for the one.One way to know of your mans deal makers and breakers is talking about their exs.What went wrong?What did she do that was soooo wrong?I got to know my hubby cause he would write and tell me when he was having trouble with this girl he was dating.He said she was nagging.That she was always bitching about other girls.I started to figure out that,okay.He does not like girls who nag and also girls who put others down for no reason.I used everything I learnt before we met to completely win him over. Jane is right.Take time to know him.Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservations. -My Childrens Mama. | |||
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