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Originally posted by jane:
Wakabutha,
I am sure you will not just walk away without saying a word!!Assuming You've been together for so long and you started when you both had nothing and worked your way all the way to the top and then walk away!Wathii uui atia?

I wouldn't encourage revenging but on the other I just can't let go and leave this other woman to enjoy my sweat.NO WAY

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Originally posted by jane:
Wa B,
Women are so smart these days.They are learned,they have very good jobs and are earning very good money.Why the heck would they stay with a man mwenye anahanya in the name of HE is the breadwinner,or that they can't do without him or....

Those days women feared that they might be seen as outcasts and also they feared that since they had no income,then they had to stay inorder to live.

I feel for those women whose husbands have a gacungwa(kaorange) somewhere and drift all the attention to her.These days they can't dare bring another woman as a second wife!They hide it so much and if the man is not lucky,he is discovered and he denies it.

I swear if a man discovered that his wife have another man,she will be killed right there and if she was caught pants down,both will be past tense.I think women should do the same too!

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Originally posted by Wakabutha:
Ladies, two wrongs do not make a right, and getting even will only increase the hurt feelings. So, what will you achieve by doing the very act that you yourself have a problem with in the first place?? I do not believe in revenge, I would rather walk away with my dignity up my sleeves than play dirty!

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Originally posted by Paka Mwitu "Alley Cat":
Nyina wa Bhakita,

This marks our point of departure .I will address the specific issues you have raised. As usual, reader discretion is advised as my views may at times be outside the realms of what society considers as “normal” thinking:

***Paka Alley,thats what makes life interesting.Having different opinions runs the planet.Can you imagine if everybody agreed on everything?That would be such a bore.And PakaA, it really does not matter to me what the rest of the world considers normal.Its all about me and what I consider normal.And fair is normal to me.Whats good for the goose should also be good for the gander.

“A few months down the road, bring this Hunky man home and introduce him as your second husband. Then watch and see how he reacts after getting a dose of his own medicine.”

1. Just try it out and tell us what happens. I believe in testing issues empirically. We might learn a thing or two from your experience.

***Paka Alley,Im glad and grateful to God for keeping my marriage safe.I have nothing to worry about and like I told Wakabutha,I will do anything to keep my family together.I made that vow to My hubby infront of God,the law and everyone I know and Im keeping my promise.My hubby knew before we said Our I dos the things I will take as his wife and the things that were a no no no.He knew that if he ever decided to play me,heck I was gonna play him too.

2. As I write this, close to 70% of men are in bed with women 60% of whom are married. You don’t have to risk physical injury to practice polygamy.

***Alley Cat,who is gonna injure who here?If I did not injure him when I saw her with him,why would he injure me or anyone for being with me?
Are you saying men can play but the women can not?Yes.Maybe cause you are still in the restricted category.Life is so different.

Smart ladies nowadays keep a series of dudes. It is impossible to get all qualities of a spouse packaged in one person. Let’s not cheat ourselves.

***But with Gods help,we can learn how to satisfy each others needs and be ready to do whatever for each other.

3. There is another monster called “family friends”. This joke has been pushed too far. In some cases, the friendship stretches to other matters.

“And for those women that marry a man after he leaves his wife for you. .What makes you think that he will not do the same to you? What goes around comes right back around. “

I don’t quite agree. There are some excellent exemptions to this rule. I believe in the adage” it is only a fool who never changes his/her mind”. Sometimes people make genuine mistakes. Should the society not allow these people a window to choose again? You might be stuck with a monster or a disaster. In short , the second choice might turn out to be just what the doctor prescribed.

***In that case,I would wish them well but I can tell you one thing.That man will never be hers.Never.What?With the kids?There will be graduation days,wedding days,-Me and him will be the brides or bridegrooms parents-grandparents moments,family get togethers but best of all,the kids times with the fathers.Mistake or not,the kids were not a mistake.Let me talk about my kids and their father.All their life,he has always always been there.He hugs them goodnight,reads them bedtime stories and prays with them.If he left me for another woman,I would unleash my plan B.My kids names are in every piece of property God has Given us and they will be in every other piece that we will own.Which means,she would have to start from scratch with him.I will file for joint custody so they are with me 3 days of the week and 3 with him.They can decide what to do with the 1 day.And for the three days they will be there,I will have written rules for them and for her.She will have no say whatsoever in my childrens life.NONE!I will encourage my children if she is mean to them while there to call 911 and say what is going on and God forbid if she ever hits one of them.My kids Im sure they would want to talk to their father every day.Who Am I to say no?That woman,will have little time with him .

“Why should men be allowed to be polygamists and not women? Kenya is one Sexist Country. Why do the women allow their men to treat them like dirt? Only a really desperate desperado woman would allow a man to treat her as his second anything.”

A lot has changed. The treatment is mutual. Many women are equally treating men as trash. And what is the opposite of a sexist society? And I would say, only a really desperado man would allow a man to treat him as her second anything!

“There are men outside Kenya you know.Yes.Marry them Aliens. Just make sure you get the right one. That is If all the good Kenyan men are taken.”

This is grossly unfair. You seem to suggest that bad habits are a preserve of Kenyan men.
Paka Alley,thats not what I meant.I said if all the good men are taken whuch means I believe there are good men in Kenya.And the reason why I encouraged marriage with Aliens is just so that a woman does not break another family.I think when a family breaks,everyone gets hurt and especially the kids.So if these women can get men outside Kenya,I mean men who are not taken,why not.

I personally don’t think so. All men were created the same. I agree much change through the way they are socialized. Men are equally looking for women outside Kenya. Ugandans, Rwandese and Burundians seem to be the hot favorites. A few are going for whites.

”That is If all the good Kenyan men are taken.”

There are only two types of men. The bad ones and the one who have not been caught!.

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Originally posted by Nyina Wa Bakhita:
Paka alley,You sure you are not 18 years old yet?Your parents must be very proud of you.You really have a very smart and good head on your shoulders.
Keep up the good work.

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Originally posted by Paka Mwitu "Alley Cat":

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Originally posted by Nyina Wa Bakhita:
Paka alley,You sure you are not 18 years old yet?Your parents must be very proud of you.You really have a very smart and good head on your shoulders.
Keep up the good work.

Nyika wa Bhakita,

Thanks for the compliment.You strike me as a very spiritual person.You definately must be a good wife and a mother to your children. I envy you.

Obviously am not that young. Just to give you some indication of my age, a few young men like wakihia and wangu are young enough to be my sons.You can deduce my age from that.

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Hehehehehehehehe.Ati Wa Kihia na Wangu?Heheheheheh.Those two a very funny dudes.They could be your sons or are you telling me they are your sons

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Obviously am not that young. Just to give you some indication of my age, a few young men like wakihia and wangu are young enough to be my sons.You can deduce my age from that.