Need to think of others instead of themselves.

Women Feelings Need Validation Too.

Funny, how some Men expect more from A Woman,
than they give of themselves. Funnier, how many
Women put up with their Bull Crap, instead of
giving them the Boot! Example; A Man stands-you-up,
breaks a date, is late or inconsiderate. Hurt's your
feelings, does you wrong,breaks your heart, or have an
affair. We Make Excuses!

"From A Man's Point of View."
That is supposed to be okay, cause a Woman is
expected, to sallow Her pride and go on as if nothing
has happened, (although She is hurting inside.)
We Make Excuses.

"From a Man's Stand Point.”
He is in a bad mood, has an attitude, taking the
focus off of himself, and puts the blame on you,
if you let him.

WOMEN! Validate your feelings
too. Everything a Man Does, Is Not Okay! So!
Stop Making Excuses! Or you will always put-up
with Bull Crap!

Somebody wrote this. Guess it was meant to be a kind of a poem.
Women CAN live without these ungrateful "pigs"- for lack of a better word. Why are they always lenient with them?

i ask: do we really need men?

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WOMEN! Validate your feelings
too. Everything a Man Does, Is Not Okay! So!
Stop Making Excuses! Or you will always put-up
with Bull Crap! ------Did you read this Maria?I too say stop giving excuses for men.Kick them to the curb.

[b]Somebody wrote this. Guess it was meant to be a kind of a poem.
Women CAN live without these ungrateful "pigs"- for lack of a better word. Why are they always lenient with them?

i ask: do we really need men?

Men---Can't live with them.Can't live without them.I prefer can't live without them cause girl,you do need a man in the house.It makes everything easier and bearable.
I will give tou details after church today.Before I go,one of the the things I like about my man,well besides my children and feeling safe cause I know most buglars will break single womens homes before ours is the feelings that come with it.Has a man ever made you feel like you had died and gone to feelings heaven? .One reason I like about being married is that as a married couple,people have every right to do whatever whenever and its all right in Gods eyes,the law and the public.You do not have to sneak around about nothing.

I could go on and on but I got church.

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I prefer can't live without them cause girl,you do need a man in the house.It makes everything easier and bearable.

really!

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Has a man ever made you feel like you had died and gone to feelings heaven?

Yes, But before I could even enjoy the moment,it was gone,like greased lightning. A man can make an onion cry,I tell you. They can make you feel bad..so bad,you wish you could just..die.

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You do not have to sneak around about nothing.

Nyina, Nyina, how many men out there don't cheat? They don't have to sneak... You're lucky if your man sneaks out,because you don't know about it,so you have no reason to worry. But Nyina, they are all the same. And worse when they are married.

Even my mum will tell you,"all men are dogs" and we were shocked cuz she has never told us about dad cheating. And I thought it was the happiest couple on this earth. i was wrong. If my dad can't be good, the No man can.

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Originally posted by Maria:

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I prefer can't live without them cause girl,you do need a man in the house.It makes everything easier and bearable.

really!

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Has a man ever made you feel like you had died and gone to feelings heaven?

Yes, But before I could even enjoy the moment,it was gone,like greased lightning. A man can make an onion cry,I tell you. They can make you feel bad..so bad,you wish you could just..die.

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You do not have to sneak around about nothing.

Nyina, Nyina, how many men out there don't cheat? They don't have to sneak... You're lucky if your man sneaks out,because you don't know about it,so you have no reason to worry. But Nyina, they are all the same. And worse when they are married.

Even my mum will tell you,"all men are dogs" and we were shocked cuz she has never told us about dad cheating. And I thought it was the happiest couple on this earth. i was wrong. If my dad can't be good, the No man can.

Maria,its true some men do cheat.They give all kinds of excuses.I have never had reason to suspect my husband .I can not however say he has never done it cause Im not with him 24-7.But if he did,well,what do they say.The days of a thief are numbered.They get caught eventually.All I know is that if or when God tells him time is up fool,thats the day his world will come crushing down.I will file for divorce soooo first he wont know what hit him.He will be out of a home cause here,its the men who move out.He will have no rights to his children and I will make sure of that.His children are his life.But I would not allow my kids to be brought up by a cheat.I can not make them think that its okay for men to treat women like that.

I think there are good men out there.I try hard not to give my hubby an excuse to cheat.When things go wrong and he needs to talk,I listen without judging or giving my opinion unless asked.And when he asks,even if I want to say that that was a dumb thing to do,I dont.Instead I say,that was not a very smart move.He laughs about it.Cause I know if I do not offer my shoulder when he needs to cry,someone else out there will.It he mangaas,it will not be because I wasnt there.And that will cost him.Like I said before,everything we own,we own together and our children too.Our names are in everything together.Except our cars.

My hubby and I sneak out together especially like now during the summer when the kids are home.We will take them to the water park and let them tire themselves out.We then leave them with
their friends ,our friends and go to the movies or just go for a ride to nowhere.Just spend time together.A lot of time.It gets exciting that it becomes a religion.

Maria,
You have to change your altitude about men!!Or else you will never appreciate any man in your life.Not ALL men cheat because mine doesn't.If he does,then he hides it so much that I wouldn't even suspect.He is the best father of my kids,my best friend,...I dont wonna say that I can't do without him(of course I can)but he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

You need a man in your life who will treat you right and then you reciprocate.Its never one way.There will be challeges here and there and the way you deal with them matters a lot.

Good luck Gal.You need a man in your life not to make your life complete but to keep you company and father your kids( ) and other things...All my college life I had men friends.The are good pple to hang out with(to me)
If they are out to take advantage of you RUN for your life gal.

You need a man in your life who will treat you right and then you reciprocate.Its never one way.There will be challeges here and there and the way you deal with them matters a lot.

***Jane true. Better yet,treat him right and let him reciprocate.Works like a charm.

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***Jane true. Better yet,treat him right and let him reciprocate.Works like a charm.

I tell ya Wa B!!
I have realised that these very little things that pple take for grated really matters.Things like thank you.I'm so soory i hurt you,Please,you look good,the food tastes good...the list is endless.These words will take a snake out of the hole(from experience point of view)
Kwanza MEN(hata women)they really love it when you appreciate them.Who doesn't anyway?

I hear you WaMatha.Sometimes women I guess dont really get it when it comes to winning your mans heart and soul.Its not even the mattress mambo even though you have to spice on that too.You are right.Its the littlest things.Like what you have said and especially treating him with respect.You cant talk to him like a kid and especially infront of kids and the public.Even when its just the two of you.Show respect and you will get back what you give in two folds.

Waoh!You are right sis.Respect is also an important aspect in marriage.In addition,good communication also helps a lot especially when you fell free to talk to your partner and express yourself with no fear.When you put all these things together plus others then youll be suprised how magical your marriage becomes!!You then start wondering why all these divorcees come from

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I have realised that these very little things that pple take for grated really matters.Things like thank you.I'm so soory i hurt you,Please,you look good,the food tastes good...the list is endless.These words will take a snake out of the hole(from experience point of view)
Kwanza MEN(hata women)they really love it when you appreciate them.Who doesn't anyway?

Excuses...excuses... I shouldnt be talking to women in love. You girls have been blinded by this love for your men,you cant see their dark side.
My friends at school are well,boys mainly, they are more caring. the will share. But that is business.
Take one of them in your life and...you wonder if you ever knew this creature.
I'll not do anything to please anyone, I can't even do it for my own father, He understands hopefully.
I wonder; If He will not do anything to please you, not buy you gifts, but really please you,like share with you his deepest secrets + granting you access to his account-to show that He trusts you, if he will not do this,why then would you try to please him? Keep him for what? He is like a dirty rug, fit enough to be out with the rest of the garbage.And no man will not be this. Even the "perfect gentlemen"...they'll only do it in style-you won't see it comming.
A least that's the way I see it.

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Originally posted by Maria:

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I have realised that these very little things that pple take for grated really matters.Things like thank you.I'm so soory i hurt you,Please,you look good,the food tastes good...the list is endless.These words will take a snake out of the hole(from experience point of view)
Kwanza MEN(hata women)they really love it when you appreciate them.Who doesn't anyway?

Excuses...excuses... I shouldnt be talking to women in love. You girls have been blinded by this love for your men,you cant see their dark side.
My friends at school are well,boys mainly, they are more caring. the will share. But that is business.
Take one of them in your life and...you wonder if you ever knew this creature.
I'll not do anything to please anyone, I can't even do it for my own father, He understands hopefully.
I wonder; If He will not do anything to please you, not buy you gifts, but really please you,like share with you his deepest secrets + granting you access to his account-to show that He trusts you, if he will not do this,why then would you try to please him? Keep him for what? He is like a dirty rug, fit enough to be out with the rest of the garbage.And no man will not be this. Even the "perfect gentlemen"...they'll only do it in style-you won't see it comming.
A least that's the way I see it.

Maria,
I feel for you gal If thats all you have to say about men(negative things)then something terribly wrong somewhere.
No one is perfect(EVEN YOU)!!!We all make mistakes at some point in our lives and thats normal.Maybe you need to see a councillor(sp) coz it seems like you have this ALTITUDE Hell knows what and why
We are not telling imaginary things but REAL things out of experience.
If your husband keeps his deepest secrets (and you can prove it),and denies you permission to access your bank account,then there ought to be something terribly wrong in your relationship.

Well,Maria,you have to make up and see what you want or else you will be making up things esp if you see your husband get home late you think you was out with another woman(Suspicion)

Good luck!!

men...

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Heh heh heh .. men will ever be men and women will ever be wome. One can never change how God created each of the sexes and its either we put up or seek alternatives !

AND there are alternatives today .. if men are that bad one can always turn to fellow women and vice versa .. instead of growing old whining

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Maria,
i totally agree with Jane and wa B,there are good men out there.i am one of them,incase one hurt you or treated you badly,it doesnt mean the next one will be like that.So just give it a chance and deal with whatever is making you soo bitter about us.

Maria- everyone has had their fair share of trials in relationships; but its a matter of choice on how you choose to look at it thereafter. In as much as there horrible men out there...I beleive there very good ones....and as such dont give up.
Jane and Wa B-your posts in this forum are very encouraging....