I was listening to kameme the other day and they had this discussion about whether or not spouses should carry out a DNA test to determine who the father of the children is.What do you think guys?

I think it shows there is lack of TRUST in a relationship, why else would he think he is not the father of my children?

I don't think there's need for carrying out a DNA test, unless ofcourse one has reason to suspect his wife of cheating. but also in that case, one should ask himself, DO I ALSO HAVE KIDS OUTSIDE THIS MARRIAGE THAT ARE BEING TAKEN CARE OF BY SOME1 ELSE? If the answer to this question is yes, then relax and help bring up the kids. A father is one who participates in bringing up the kid and not necessarily one who participated in the conception.

YES!!
once THE MAN starts noticing some weird sms, late night calls, mid week keshas, and some certain coldness from his partner, i guess its time they should go for that test!! i heard of this guy who after becoming a successful businessman,he decided to marry a second wife.He had four kids with the first wife. upon marrying the second wife, they tried hard to have kids lakini wapi. so the guy thought the new wife wasnt fertile enough to bear him kids.Distressed, the second wife paid numerous visits to the doctor but the doctor couldnt find anything wrong with her.She tried hard to persuade the hubby to go see the doc with her. Eventually the hubby agreed(shingo upande). Doc's verdict, the hubby was so infertile to have fathered or to ever father any kids!!!
hawa wanne walitoka wapi????

The only person who knows the father of the kids is the mother,so its good for guys to confirm this.

"CAUTION" "DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL, IT CAN DESTROY UR FAMILY"

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I think it shows there is lack of TRUST in a relationship, why else would he think he is not the father of my children?

it shows the man's lack of Trust in his partner. Remember these tests are meant to identify if the guy is the biological Dad. Muzee atatembea na mama hatajua.

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why else would he think he is not the father of my children?

Haiya kai wí nga? pole kwa kukuita muthuri murata in other forums.

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A father is one who participates in bringing up the kid and not necessarily one who participated in the conception.

- you left out a major word. 'unknowingly'
kama najua ni mzee ingine before we get married then thats o.k. lakini kama amepata hiyo mtoto kama tumeoana na hiyo mtoto sio yangu,hiyo haiwezekani!!!

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"CAUTION" "DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL, IT CAN DESTROY UR FAMILY"

Define family!!
do you think that if your wife got herself some kids with another man while you guys are married is OK? in my opinion those kids ain my family! family ni damu!!!

What you dont know will never hurt you.

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Originally posted by kariuki wa kihia**:

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"CAUTION" "DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL, IT CAN DESTROY UR FAMILY"

Define family!!
do you think that if your wife got herself some kids with another man while you guys are married is OK? in my opinion those kids ain my family! family ni damu!!!

FAMILY IN THIS CONTEXT MEANS UR WIFE, KIDS N URSELF.

I GET UR POINT KIHIA THAT U CANNOT DESTROY SOMETHING WHICH WAS NOT THERE COZ IF THIS KIDS WERE SIRED BY ANOTHER MAN THEY R NOT PART OF UR FAMILY!

WHAT IF WE SAY " DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL" IT WILL DESTROY UR MARRIAGE"

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What you dont know will never hurt you.

....but it will eat you from within!!

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WHAT IF WE SAY " DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL" IT WILL DESTROY UR MARRIAGE"

.....and save you from future emotional distress.

another Question. as a man, what would you do if you found out that the kid you went to see in the hospital ,while it was being delivered,is not your son/daughter. That you shed tears of joy to celebrate another man's hard work! that the kid you have called son/daughter-princess. isnt yours after all. what would you do!!

Ladies, what would you do if you found out that the nephew/niece (your brother's) that you went to see at the hospital,the one you cuddled so lovingly,are not your brother's kids after all. what would you do. sheeba? wakabutha?

Haiya kai wí nga? pole kwa kukuita muthuri murata in other forums


Funny, i never saw any reference to myself as a jamaa by you, yes Ndi mutumia in every possible way

Sorry if i said or did something to insiniuate otherwise.

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Originally posted by kariuki wa kihia**:

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What you dont know will never hurt you.

....but it will eat you from within!!

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WHAT IF WE SAY " DO DNA TEST AT UR OWN PERIL" IT WILL DESTROY UR MARRIAGE"

.....and save you from future emotional distress.

another Question. as a man, what would you do if you found out that the kid you went to see in the hospital ,while it was being delivered,is not your son/daughter. That you shed tears of joy to celebrate another man's hard work! that the kid you have called son/daughter-princess. isnt yours after all. what would you do!!

Ladies, what would you do if you found out that the nephew/niece (your brother's) that you went to see at the hospital,the one you cuddled so lovingly,are not your brother's kids after all. what would you do. sheeba? wakabutha?

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I wouldn't want to know.The story that Kihia has told us resembles of another guy i know who cannot have kids and remains childless. If the wife shanukaad and had kids elsewhere the guy would be a very proud father coz he's the one with the problem.Andu makenina ni ugi wao the holy book says. Uhoro uyu uroimire ku? Unless you suspect during pregnancy tht your wife is unfaithful then go for it otherwise tuliza.

Kihia let me ask you,most men when they find out that their wives cannot have kids, they get another, what are women supposed to do?

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Originally posted by kariuki wa kihia**:

another Question. as a man, what would you do if you found out that the kid you went to see in the hospital ,while it was being delivered,is not your son/daughter. That you shed tears of joy to celebrate another man's hard work! that the kid you have called son/daughter-princess. isnt yours after all. what would you do!!

KIHIA DO U KNOW WHAT WOMEN SAY N I QUOTE

"THE SUREST WAY TO REMAIN SINGLE IS TO BE HONEST"

SO SINCE THE UNKNOWN IS KNOWN NOW ITS GOOD TO MAKE A DECISION WHICH WILL CUT CLEAN N STRAIGHT SO U CAN NULLIFY UR MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE COZ ADULTERLY IS A GOOD BASE TO GET A DIVORCE IN THE COURT OF LAW WITH REFERENCE TO MATRIMONIAL CAUSES ACT

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If the wife shanukaad and had kids elsewhere the guy would be a very proud father coz he's the one with the problem

FOUR TIMES,FOUR KIDS!!!! and you know it doesnt mean eti she cheated on him four times only.they must have tried several times before she got pregnant.íno jamba onayo níyagúíthuríria tondú warírí, ndionaga ciana citihuanaine?
and you know she never discussed that issue with the poor guy!

i would rather adopt!! i would raher we discussed it before she went outsourcing for my manly duties. even you wa maitu you are just saying it lakini practically huwezi

I had this same discussion with my significant other the other day. He says that he wouldnt love the child any less if by chance he found out he really didnt father the child. But would he ever trust me again? a big NO. Meaning we wouldn't have a marriage after all, so hawa watoto atawapenda akiwa wapi??

[Ladies, what would you do if you found out that the nephew/niece (your brother's) that you went to see at the hospital,the one you cuddled so lovingly,are not your brother's kids after all. what would you do. sheeba? wakabutha?[/QUOTE]
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I wouldn't want to know.The story that Kihia has told us resembles of another guy i know who cannot have kids and remains childless. If the wife shanukaad and had kids elsewhere the guy would be a very proud father coz he's the one with the problem.Andu makenina ni ugi wao the holy book says. Uhoro uyu uroimire ku? Unless you suspect during pregnancy tht your wife is unfaithful then go for it otherwise tuliza.

Kihia let me ask you,most men when they find out that their wives cannot have kids, they get another, what are women supposed to do?[/QUOTE]

EE, mungetaka to fanye aje??