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Originally posted by sajini:
Solution,
Abolish the family. Start communes where all children will be raised the same way.

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All in all parents should bring their kids in such a way that haka kama watapotoka,the parents have done their part and it's up to them to decide what they want with their lives

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Originally posted by wa kariuki:
Alley Cat i agree with you that our kids learn alot from many other sources but deep in my heart i know parents influence kids way more than we know. they might not spend as much time with their parents as compared to what they spend with their teachers and nannies/maids but look at your kids well you will realize that they admire us so much they emulate us even without necessarily spending that much time together. so its vital we play our role well as parents coz regardless things still go and can wrong but we can look back and say i did my best and like it says in Proverbs 22:6 Train [a] a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.

so, lets nit blame the TV etc but lets do what we are supposed to do, and pray for them coz even we grew up with that but the good training we got while growing up somehow sobered us up when we were almost losing it. all the best parents

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Originally posted by Paka Mwitu "Alley Cat":
Wa Bhakita,

I believe children learn from many sources nowadays. If you check the number of hours most parents spend with their children, you will be shocked. It is such a negligible time. We have left our children in the care of maids (nannies), teachers, television, and the company of other children and strangers. We work round the clock, mostly getting home well after the children have slept. Reason- We have to work a little harder to make them comfortable. On Sunday, we all go to church , chat with friends and probably have visitors in the afternoon . When then do we spend time with our children so that they can learn good manners from us.

Wa B, most Kenyan parents’ idea of entertaining children is at best weird. I walk into most pubs in Nairobi and I am horrified at what I see- parents with hordes of children in tow swirling beer and nyama choma till very late. Most seem to think that as long as a recreational centre has a bouncing castle and a few swings for the children to play, and as long as the children have fun, then it is okay. How then do you expect them to shun alcohol, cigarette and other vices that adults exhibit in those places. Both men and women are equally guilty of this. Hope in stato it is different.

At home, we settle down to watch popular Mexican and Spanish soap operas with our children. Most ladies are guilty of this. And what are the themes in all these soaps-immorality, cheap sex, and adultery. Mostly the language used is at best lewd and at times uncouth. Will the children not learn from this. This is what I call “the big television syndrome”. Wa B, just look at the type of music videos being aired by our local televisions. AS a parent, you will be horrified by the amount of nudity and vulgar language used. Worst still, most of them are aired around 4-5pm (Kenyan time) when the young children have gone back home and the parents are busy at work.

In all these things (TV, Music videos, Soaps etc), women are treated as nothing more than sex objects. It is sad but true. What will stop our children from picking up such bad habits? Look at some of the advertisements aired both locally and abroad. How do they treat women?? What is the central theme in all of them?? Whenever they use a nice lovely model to promote Embassy or some other cigarettes, how will my young daughter interpret the message?-beautiful girls smoke, it is a cool thing

Last December, I took my small niece (4 years old) to water splash for a bash organized by Jumbo junior , cooperative bank. You will be shocked how those young innocent kids play a long those dirty songs and dirty dances. Henceforth I changed my perception of what a good bank should be. These are our future leaders.

Wa B, lets move a little bit to our family get together. We play mugithi music some of which may carry very bad message especially about women. We swirl beer, smoke and talk without a care that our children are listening. I can go on and on. In short Wa B, sometimes the children behaviors are influenced by many factors beyond a parents control. I look at most kids nowadays and wonder whether it is worthwhile bringing forth some in this world. AT that point I get confused and delay the decision indefinitely.

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Originally posted by sajini:
Nyina wa B,
I was thinking about this topic and my mind went to foster children. Let us imagine this scenario, a girl meets a man, they play and unfortunately the girl conceives and the man bolts. Out of fear, the girl throws the child into a ditch. Luckily, a good samaritan saves the child and takes it to a foster home whne it is given up for adoption.

If the child turns out to be a crook, whose mistake is it?, the biological parents or the foster parents? What about the reverse scenario?

Is inherritance of sins genetic (from the biblical point of view) or social?

Methinks that everything has to do with the society, and the parents have very marginal role in it.

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The best way would be to teach our children the word.Teach them the Lords way and then Leave It To God.

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Methinks that everything has to do with the society, and the parents have very marginal role in it.