Poor Tommy, poorer Tommy's wife, poorest Tommy's children

You are right Sajini, in every marriage break up it is the children who are hardest hit though they are always innocent.

We should admit not every man or woman is family compatible, there are those of us who are of free spirit and cannot be tied down.

Matrimony is a life commitment, if you are not called for it pleeeeease do not otherwise you bring suffering on to innocent people

Huh!! After all has been said and done, I have this to say-
You should never stay in an unhealthy, unhappy ,.....marriage for the sake of the children!!
When Tommy met this lady he had no children and their relationship was not based on them. I support Tommys' decision 100%. The ladies who still cling to their adulterous hubbys is upto them. Run for your life Tommy. Life is too short. Support the kids as much as you can and be their for them as a dad. Good Luck!!

Jane,
Githi nduri wa Kanitha. Niukuririkana munabii to Hosea, erirwo ni Murungu ahikie mutumia mumaraya. Na hingo ciothe Hosea amucokia mucia mutumia ooraga agacokerera umaraya, no Hosea akeerwo amucokie mucii. Ona gutuika moorutani maugaga ihitia riria ringituma muthuri ma mutumia matigane ni utharia-ri, githi ndugukiona gikunjo kiratwira twohanire na tucokie andu mucii ari ruuri rwa wendo wa ciana?

I am not in any way implying that the relationship should continue as it was before, but there can be special arrangements that will suit both. However, only the strong-willed can do this. If Tommy feels he cannot handle the heat in the kitchen, thyen he better get out of the kitchen. IIni akarie mukaawa.

Saj,
Hau waria kihoto. No uria kuri niati ihinda riri turi tita ria tene. Maundu nimacenjetie muno na mundu angiaga kwimenyerera nieguthirania na maundu maria mekuo.

Special arrangements iria ingikorwo ho niati Tommy ni wega athii na mbere gutungata ciana ciake, tondu nima mundu murwaru no aremwo.Otherwise I dont see the point of him staying with a woman that will make him so miserably all his life.Niura imagine ona angikorwo niekuhuthira condom uria meciria make magokoragwo mahana? What if I also get it? What if i die who will take care of my kids? I am NOT saying amene mutumia wake. No. Let them interact and visit each other but not stay as husband and wife....

Ningukugathiria weekend.

Hapo tuko pamoja! Nilichomaanisha ni kwamba hata kama wataafikiana kuishi pamoja, ngono kando. Twajua kwamba hata soksi huwa na nuksi mara kwa mara.

Hiyo ngumu sana, werent we also told that "kindu kiuru no ihitia ria ruturiku?" infact its the other unforgivable sin debatable as that might be! women are known to be very forgiving, even some men, but somethings Christians as we may be, ni ngumu, HIV is not even the issue anymore, trust is. you can forgive, but can you forget and live with it? whats marriage without trust? nothing if you ask me. shida tupu. i hope they will raise their kids well regardless, in some countries, those are grounds to take the kids away from her (unfit mother!) not HIV bit though.

hmmm... hapo iko shida taraka pekee ndiyo suruhu

General, i muisho wa uhoro gwathiangire atia mani?